The Big Question
Boxers or briefs? Which do you prefer for your guy and why?
And to really explore the topic in depth, let's consider the range of choices in between those two extremes. Let's see...we have...the total commando look, the thong (does any guy dare, for everyday wear?), the bikini brief, the fitted boxer... Am I forgetting anything?
I personally prefer boxers. There are a multitude of reasons. They can be serious or silly, and a guy who is willing to wear, say, smiley faces on his underwear has to be pretty secure in his manhood. Boxers leave a bit to the imagination. They are flattering, and they allow for personal expression in the form of patterns and such. Plus they're more fun to buy than a prepackaged roll of three white undies.
When you're outfitting your male characters, think about what kind of drawers they wear and why. What does that say about them? Is there some deep significance to whether a guy is willing to let the boys hang loose, versus needing the security and comfort of a snug fit?
posted by Jamie Sobrato @ 12:44 PM
38 Comments:
I think the love of my life might be fashion impaired when it comes to undergarments.
I have never ever ever written a scene where I mentioned underwear. Not that I'm saying you're sleazy or anything for writing (and thinking about)man-panties.
On second thought, maybe you are sleazy, but at least you didn't say man-panties.
My husband switched to boxer briefs awhile ago, and I like they way they look. They're better if they are patterned or darker, that way they don't look too much like "tighty whitey's." If the guy has a nice rear end, the boxer briefs show that off without the not so fun-to-look at aspects of the briefs.
If he ever chooses to switch to the bikini briefs I see on the shelf, I may throw up.
I am definitely a boxer fan. My characters always wear boxers. It has never occurred to me that they should wear anything else, because I think boxers are by far the sexiest. (Although, the guys in boxer brief ads are pretty hot. :-)
I probably shouldn't announce this in public, but my darling hubby used to wear a mix of things and I just gradually tossed the ones that weren't boxers whenever I did laundry. It worked. LOL
Sleazy? Moi? You must be remembering my prom dress (which I still have, by the way, as a little monument to bad taste in my closet).
Bethany, does your husband even wear undergarments? (You don't have to answer that.)
I don't mention underwear that often in scenes, but sometimes it helps to know such details even if you never mention them.
Who wears bikini briefs besides gay men? Has anyone actually had a close encounter with a guy wearing bikini underwear?
Boxer briefs--that's the name I was searching for! I called them fitted boxers because I was too lazy to go look up the proper name. Those do look nice, at least on the underwear models. I've never seen them, uh, up close and personal.
Yeah, the man's underwear doesn't need to come up that often, does it? Usually I think we're more interested in hearing about the chisled abs.
But character development wise, it would be good to know what the guy wears. Imagine the character that would wear the bikini briefs, or God forbid, a male thong. Yuck. It would be funny though if there was the sleazy co-worker (or something like that) who hits on the heroine and thinking she'll be turned on by it, lets it slip he's wearing a thong. Wouldn't you die?
The boxer briefs are quite nice up close and personal. And the guy doesn't necessarily need to look like the guys on the package to look good in them. My husband's a good looking guy, but he doesn't live at the gym.
I have not (thank goodness) seen bikini briefs up close. OH WAIT A MINUTE! My first boyfriend (who I later found out was gay lol) had a pair of bikini briefs. Tell me that wasn't a sign!
But when I mentioned the bikini brief thing, I was really thinking of those guys who actually wear speedo's, and not the gorgeous male swimmers either. I never need to see that again. One of my high-school friends had a brother who wore those. He was a little fat, an it was one of those experiences that leaves a scar for life.
LOL, you are right, Theresa, the male thong is a perfect symbol for all that is wrong with certain guys, so it's definitely a great detail for the sleazy coworker.
In fact, this is reminding me of a story of Cindy's... She's already on top of this whole scenario. Er, I mean, she wrote such a scene. A funny one! Male thong and all, I believe. Wasn't it a thong, Cindy?
Wow, Theresa, gay boyfriend AND scarred for life by an improperly worn male bikini! You're lucky you're not in therapy for that, LOL.
We used to live in an apartment complex with a pool, and there was a guy from Bolivia or someplace near there, probably in his fifties, who was quite ample in size and walked around in a teeny tiny Speedo. I thought it fit his personality quite well, so I didn't mind it, but I just wonder, what are they thinking? Do they not see problems?
Thinking a bit more about this issue of Speedos and such, I realize the Bolivian guy didn't bother me because he was comfortable with himself, and I have to admire that in anyone. I mean, man or woman, if you can go to the pool or whereever and just let it all hang out and enjoy yourself...well there is something to be said for that! It's admirable.
I guess if you to any country with beaches, like France or Germany, you'll get an eyefull of not so tastefully worn beachwear. My parents used to tell me stories about that when they'd go on vacation. My mom used to always wonder how they could look in a mirror and think yeah, that looks good.
I truly think confidence is key. Have you ever seen someone who is uncomfortable in the outfit they are wearing? It's so obvious. I guess that's where the phrase "the clothes are wearing them" came from.
Truthfully, the most attractive people are the one's who are the most comfortable in their own skin, then basically they can wear anything and it isn't going to matter.
In real life I prefer the boxer-briefs, as dose my hubby. But in my romance heroes I tend to like 'em commando. It just seems more rebellious or something. Although I cannot imagine that going without anything at all would be comfortable. I always imagine horrible zipper accidents!
Jamie,
I was sooooo jealous of your $30.00 prom dress!
What makes you think my husband wouldn't wear underwear?
Hey, Jamie,
Yes the first scene in one of my WIPs features a man wearing a banana-boat (thong). He's NOT the hero. The heroine is present, and she's not impressed (she's a photographer, and he's not exactly cover model material).
My heros' choice of underwear depends on the guy--when I'm writing, he lets me know what he wears. I admit I rarely write them purposely wearing boxers, because I grew up in the Seventies and boxers were for gorks. All the "real" men wore what we now refer to as tightie-whities.
That said, I did purposely put one hero in boxers in a book, because they suited him. Another hero went commando most of the time, and I admit I have no idea what he wore when he WASN'T going commando, as he spends a good part of the book naked. ;) And yet another hero wears boxer-briefs.
In real life, my husband has all three styles and wears them depending on the pants. If they're loose enough for boxers, he wears boxers, because they're the most comfy. I think I like the boxer-briefs best. Both my sons wears boxers or boxer-briefs. No self-respecting teenager these days would wear regular briefs.
Cindy
Oh, and for the non-Cindy-ized among you, "gorks" are "geeky dorks."
I think Jamie's used to me by now.
Cindy
Double oh, for some reason a guy wearing boxers makes me think of his bits bouncing around, which then makes me think he likes them bouncing around, which then makes me think he's a pervert, LOL.
I never said I was normal.
Cindy
Bethany, I have no idea why I speculated on Lee's underwear choices! It just sounded funny at the time. And also probably because you created an aura of mystery by not releasing any facts. Of course, I wouldn't release any facts on the subject of my husband's underwear either.
Did I really pay $30 for my prom dress from Merry-Go-Round? LOL. I can't even remember, but that's probably right. I'm holding onto it until it's a collector's item and I can sell it for major $$$$ on Ebay. (Yeah right.)
Oh good, I thought maybe some aspect of his personality was screaming 'no underpants' or something. Or maybe since you've known him longer than I have that he used to go around talking about his underwear or lack of them.
My prom dress is in the back of my son's closet. Once in awhile he'll tell me he wants to wear it, then lovingly touches the sequins, while I'm shuffling around for his snoopy overalls or something. I had to break it to him last week that he can't wear hair barettes or headbands, those accessories belong to baby.
Jamie, you said you've never seen boxer-briefs up close and personal, so I've deduced your husband doesn't wear them. Either I'm very clever or you're fibbing.
DON'T tell me he's a thong guy.... Just don't.
Cindy
You never know, Cindy.. being married to a writer of 'erotic romance' could have done that to him.
Bethany, you should put your son in the prom dress, take some photos of him, and then use them to blackmail him when he's sixteen.
No, my husband would be vehemently opposed to thong underwear. He is seriously anti-thong.
I think the only thing my being the author of "erotic romance" gets him is lots of wink-wink, nudge-nudge type crap at work.
And LOL, no, I've never witnessed Lee discuss underwear preferences. Troy maybe (he liked wearing the girl ones), but not Lee.
Of course, I wouldn't release any facts on the subject of my husband's underwear either.
Um....we're not supposed to do that?
Hey, it all depends on the guy! Since I don't know your husband, I'm perfectly happy to know his underwear preferences, LOL.
My husband is a modest guy and probably would prefer I not air his dirty laundry here, so to speak. Actually I know some people he works with have even told me they read this blog, so I'm keeping my mouth shut on all subjects regarding the spouse!
My husband would love the attention, that I can guarantee. He'd give you more information than you'd want on his undie preference. Then he'd tell you how shy he is.
I just live with the guy, that doesn't mean I understand him.
I'll just have to come visit you some day and raid his dresser...
mwhahahaha
Demented sidekick, you are sooooo not fooling anyone. Dare I reveal your true identity, hmmm. Cin-errr, I mean, "demented sidekick?"
You're not getting near the underwear drawer, so don't even think about it!
Hummm, I think reading this blog actually made me do something about the underpants my hubby wears - as in I ordered him a new cool style for Christmas. As in a low rise style that won't show above his jeans. I also had another motive here, they are black in color.
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These comments about guys and their underwear. Why not ask your guy what type he wants to wear, support him, make him feel sexy, and enjoy the benefits.
I wear all types of underwear except boxer shorts. They are so uncomfortable. But briefs, bikinis, thongs, and even womens underwear. The choices are out there.
My gfs have never had a problem with it. In fact, we have even gone panty shopping together. Talk about a turn on.
You women complain that men don't do this and don't do that. Maybe if you supported your man every now and then and let him be himself you wouldn't have to complain so much.
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